Too Many People Want To Be Taken Seriously
The easiest way is not to try ...
POSTED BY DAVID PIBWORTH ON 31/07/2018 @ 8:00AM
Last week my daughter - 12 years old - asked me why some people want to be taken seriously and others don't. A bit philosophical for me really but I answered her as best I could ...
Too many people want to be taken seriously, but you can still have a laugh while you do it.
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I said that at certain times we all have to be serious, but wanting to be taken seriously is quite another matter. For example, my father died very recently and I gave the eulogy at his funeral. Now while it was a serious occasion I felt no need to do a serious talk.
"I remembered the funny incidents from childhood and stories about his friends, many now also gone; it went down well."
I wanted people to enjoy it, learn something about him and to celebrate 89 years of which 85 were good, but I didn't want people to take me seriously as that isn't what I do. My dad of all people knew that, so why try and change suddenly?
At work, I put on productions, have the stage hire business, the magic workshops and direct comedy, and yes, I take it all very seriously, but I honestly couldn't care less if people take me seriously.
I think wanting to be taken seriously is something for others, and if you are a surgeon or Prime Minister you have to sing to that tune, but for most of us, you don't need all that baggage. I see people on social media, and all they want is for others to say how marvellous they are, and apart from anything else, it's boring.
So I don't really know why people crave for it. We all crave for something I suppose. I'm writing a sitcom at present and really want it to be successful, and I think it's perfect, but as I've written it around other people I know, I won't take it seriously if it does get shown.
All I've done is nicked a bit of real life and put it down on paper. It is a comedy, and that's how it should be viewed. I'm not trying to change the world.
And I think that's what it boils down to. People who want to change the world feel the need to be taken seriously. Certainly, the ones I know and none of them will change the world because all we can do is to help a little bit of it at best, and if we all do that then maybe the world will change.
"I had a great knees-up the other day for my birthday."
A group of mates came round, I ordered a load of pies, and then we played snooker, drank beer and made each other laugh. But I also had a mate who was collecting for an Indian Girl's Orphanage, and we all threw some money in the pot.
When we counted it out at the end, we'd got £180. They need £240 a year to educate one girl, so we were well on the way to helping one child. If we all did something like that, it may make a difference.
So have a good time and be yourself. Try not to take it all seriously, cos we'll all be dead in the end, and do a little bit if you can afford to.
Maybe people will take you seriously if that's what you crave, but if they do, then my advice is to suddenly do something very silly indeed, like ride a motorbike through The Bull Hotel in Olney dressed in black underwear which I once did.
"They probably wouldn't appreciate it now as it's been extensively refurbished."
I should become a life coach and just tell everyone to enjoy themselves, there's probably a market for it. But I probably won't, as it's all a bit too serious.
Until next time ...
More about David Pibworth ...
David is the owner and Artistic Director of The Arches Theatre in Clifton Reynes near Milton Keynes. Productions are underneath some flood arches on the disused Midland railway line (Bedford to Northampton). It is equidistant from Bedford, Northampton and Milton Keynes. You bring your food, drink and chairs and enjoy the varied shows that are produced. This year - 2022 - there are 12 productions on throughout the season, from Shakespeare to Ripping Yarns plus a music weekend.
David has been involved in 'Light Ent' for many years, working with Ray Galton and Alan Simpson adapting the scripts of 'Steptoe and Son' and those of Tony Hancock to the stage. He has produced shows for Norman Wisdom (which makes him feel old), Al Murray, and Joe Pasquale amongst others, and also worked in the music business promoting and producing shows with Chas and Dave, Neil Inness, Kenny Ball, Acker Bilk and others of that ilk.
He is also the director of a film school for young people in his home town of Olney as well as supporting many local events.
He recently negotiated permission from Dick Clement and Ian La Frenais to stage a short run of 'Porridge' on stage which proved a success.
This year the annual charity performance at The Arches Theatre will be the last of 'Ripping Yarns' by Michael Palin and Terry Jones, with the profits being donated to The National Brain Appeal' for research into dementia as David's father and uncle died of it, as did Michael Palin's friend and writing partner Terry Jones. Last year they raised an astonishing Ã‚Â£10,000 and are hoping to get somewhere close again with the support of audiences and sponsors.
David also has a stage hire company and his wife Julie runs a livery yard, so they are surrounded by horses, dogs, light entertainment and and a 17 year old daughter.
He plays in a comedy jazz band and collects strange props such as the Spitting Image puppets of Denis Thatcher and Alan Bennett, the child catchers bike from the stage show of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, and various other 'things' all of which he sells to raise money for the Arches Theatre, although he always finds it hard to part from these props. However as the theatre receives no funding at all, he is always devising ways to keep it going! Sponsors are always welcome!
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